Dreams

Ya know, I read a post someone close to me wrote talking about how her dreams will never come true, and that "life sucks." It made me realize just how lucky I am to have a husband who not only supports my dreams, but is willing to do anything and everything he can to help me achieve them. I think that's a very important trait to find in a spouse. Your dreams are what make you, well you. If you are with someone who is so willing to shoot down your dreams and tell you that you can't, then why are you with them in the first place. I have a lot of dreams, probably too many, and some are so out there I'm sure my husband thinks I'm crazy. But if I told him I wanted to fly to the moon tomorrow, he would drive to to NASA tonight and help me sneak on a rocket. (that's a little over the top but you get my point). He's supported me through the decision to be a stay at home mom to 3 of the best kids in the world, and I know they behave the way they do partly because of my influence on them while we are home all day. He's supported me through going to college, and changing my mind a million times on what I want to do "when I grow up." And I know as a parent that's all I want for my kids when they grow up. For them to find someone who will support them and encourage them to reach for the starts and have all their dreams come true. I think that's important in a relationship for it to go both ways. I support him, as he does for me. Otherwise the relationship becomes one sided, and it's like one person is more important than the other. That's a relationship doomed to fail. You can't hide the fact that you're unhappy because you haven't accomplished your dreams, it wears on you too much and you'll end up regretting your choices because you'll be living a life you never chose. I'm lucky, and I'm so happy for everyone else who has found that "partner" in their life. Because his support is worth more to me than all the money in the world, we're both happy, and slowly accomplishing our dreams while raising 3 amazing kids together. I pray that someday my friend gets her dreams, but first she has to realize that they are important, and it's something she needs to do for herself. No one should stand in the way of making sure you're happy.